They recently got engaged after dating for about a year. I enjoy hanging out with my soon to be SIL and this was one of the only times I’ve hung out with her without my brother in tow. The reason Joe and I are considering moving is that we live in flats at the moment and we want to live in houses. We are still shaken up and we know we have work to do but we know we have so much and we want to focus on that because the negative is in the minority. And no matter what happens I am always grateful for my family.
It all started when my brother gifted his fiancée a brand new phone as a gesture of love. However, little did she know that he had also installed a tracking app on it without her knowledge. I stumbled upon this information accidentally and was left utterly shocked.
“The irony of him calling her intrusive when he’s putting a tracker on someone else’s phone is just too much,” said another. “Also, based off your BF’s reaction, I would be concerned about there being a tracking app on your phone. She 100 percent needs to know, and you both need partners who aren’t fine with criminal stalking of another adult. So Adam has not dated anyone eversince he and Claire got separated, Claire always talked about how this was a good thing because she believes that my stepdaughter is better off without a witch stepmom to boss her around and abuse her. On top of that, you’re going to have to deal with her sister more than just at the wedding.
My fSIL actually approached me privately and let me know she was happy to have the conversation now with my brother vs later. We are going to spend the holidays together and traveling. I told Sam about the new paint for the house but he just doesn’t want to live there, he will rent it. I made a joke about me simply eloping or not having a proper wedding to avoid drama and Joe told me in no uncertain terms I get the biggest party ever if I choose to. Some have commented about it but no, she has not apologized, she even went so far as to text my oldest brother “Joe” that she thought it would be a good wedding present from my brother to her since she values family. We aren’t worried about being sued but will consult a lawyer just in case.
She posted it online, and people were freaking out and calling Sam, asking him if it was true. Sam called her and asked that she delete, but she continued claiming she was pregnant. Joe was enraged, but Ana convinced him to let it go and simply move on.
The ‘men’ in your life sound like horrible insecure children. I think you need to expose both of them bc neither of them deserves you ladies. You have seen the red flags when it came to your brother so please don’t ignore the ones your partner is showing. I (25F) am a bridesmaid to to the fiancée (30F) of my older brother (31M). She and I aren’t particularly close but I don’t dislike her and I suspect she asked me just because i’m my brothers sister.
The thought of someone being tracked without their consent is a serious breach of privacy, and it made me question my brother’s intentions. While I understand that he may have had good intentions behind installing the app, such as ensuring her safety, the fact remains that it was done without her knowledge.
As a sibling caught in the middle of this dilemma, I can’t help but feel torn between loyalty to my brother and doing what is right by informing his fiancée about the tracking app. On one hand, I don’t want to betray my brother’s trust, but on the other hand, I believe that everyone has the right to privacy.
My conscience is telling me that I should speak up and let his fiancée know about the tracking app, so she can make an informed decision about how to proceed. It’s a difficult situation to navigate, but ultimately, honesty and transparency are key in any relationship.
