The three of them leave dirty dishes everywhere. Yep, everything suggests that the wife is essentially being emotionally abused at that job, and she really needs to quit and find a new one. But it sounds like she refuses to do so, like so many people in an abusive relationship are made to feel like they can’t survive without that relationship/job. Hope he manages to get her to quit and she finds a new job that’s better for her. At the same time, money, despite its many advantages, also has some flaws.
The student lives in the dorms, but usually, during finals, she comes home to study quietly. The OP’s husband, who’s not her daughter’s biological dad, has changed jobs and is now working remotely. The woman works from the office, so when her daughter visits, she and her stepdad are at the house by themselves.
So, he is looking for a part time job while doing what we used to do. I encouraged him to look into freelancing and remote work. And yes I sincerely apologized for my childish behavior because of a reddit post I made. We discovered a lot of things about us and our relationships at the counselling sessions. Firstly, I apologized to him and explain why I did that.
Recently, tensions have been rising in my household over the division of labor when it comes to childcare. My husband has taken on the role of stay-at-home dad, while I continue to work full-time to support our family. While I appreciate all the hard work he puts into taking care of our children, I couldn’t help but feel frustrated when he claimed that his job is easy.
What’s throwing me here is husband came back at 11pm, after being gone 3 hours. That means he left around 8, heck call it 7 to account for travel and rounding errors on the time. At 7pm the young children hadn’t eaten dinner? The mother couldn’t spend an hour getting them to bed and gone back to work (I’m assuming she WFH since she was still there when he had to leave)? Is guess the mom has a health issue going, and more than her reaction seems odd to me.
Here were the comments on the original post. Some of them had a major effect. Why are you okay with him putting down your contributions and devaluing you? Especially in front of your children?
AITA for telling my husband that his job as a stay-at-home dad is only easy because I help out? I don’t think so. It’s important to acknowledge the reality of the situation and recognize the support that goes into making his job manageable. Being a stay-at-home parent is no walk in the park, but it’s essential to remember that it’s a team effort.
He thought it was easy, learned it’s not, and instead of recognizing it he pushes everything off on you. I really hope your counseling works OP, because he really needs it. YWBTA to yourself if you allow this to continue. Stop enabling him to put others down and stand up for yourself.
It’s not about diminishing the hard work my husband does as a stay-at-home dad. It’s about being honest about the fact that without my support, his job would be much more challenging. From financial contributions to helping out with household chores, my role in our family dynamic plays a significant part in making his job easier.
Communication is key in any relationship, and this situation is no exception. By having an open and honest conversation about the realities of our roles within the family, we can work together to ensure that we are both feeling supported and appreciated. It’s okay to have difficult conversations, as long as they are coming from a place of love and understanding.
Ultimately, being a stay-at-home parent is a demanding and rewarding job that requires a great deal of patience, resilience, and dedication. By acknowledging the support that goes into making this role successful, we can cultivate a deeper sense of gratitude and appreciation for each other’s contributions to our family unit.
